Saturday 26 May 2012

little ones

Meeting the hunger, Ilo demolishing a bowl of dahl, rice, sauerkraut and yoghurt
Oh this little one. So full of spirit, love, frustration, humour and determination. He can be showering you with kisses and professing his love 'to the moon, the stars and Malaysia and back" and then a few minutes later he will be declaring "i don't love you" with a stubborn frown and a hand ready to hit... yikes. Obviously this change in attitude comes along when he is not getting things exactly what he wishes. 
Ilo is showing that, at the moment, he is quite full of determination on one hand and pure sweetness on the other, difficult for a parent (the determination) but awesome traits as an adult; standing up for what he believes in and being gorgeously kind to so many around him. But, I don't like to project, he is 2 and a half and these are just parts of who he is now. And oh my goodness he is so gorgeous and overall such a delight.
Poe had a few days off school whilst his toe tried to heal, on the third day in particular (after adjusting to each others groove) Ilo and he had the most glorious of days, full of adventures; mummas and mummas, campouts, sewing, printing, adventures in the bathtub, journeys to other lands, picnics and so much love and affection. I love seeing them when they just fit so well together, when they are both listening, both having a chance to bring ideas to the game, both understood, it feels so gentle and beautiful and they just beam. On other days they have a hard time fitting, of listening, of understanding each other. Siblings, at times, so wonderful to watch, at others it's like a car crash. At the end of everyday and the start of every morning, these two kiss, cuddle and declare their love for each other, making the car crashes just that bit more tolerable. 


4 comments :

  1. I am hearing you, same same but different!! I am also spending my time with a sweet sweet two and a half year old who can also be angry, bossy and stubborn (also partial to a fisty cuff to her mum! Then there are my big boys - best friends mostly but then there are the occassional fights....Take a breath!!

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    1. definitely, the best thing to do is exhale and not get attached. oh these little people with big emotions. but then even adults have difficulties dealing with emotions, the more tools we can equip them with the better. hey we are moving next monday but then we will be just near the hospital at jo's place, so you can call in for a tea, whenever you want, as you head into town from Kalang. how perfect.

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  2. Your boys are so gorgeous Jay, such beautiful photos. Having two boys myself I can relate to your words about brothers, and Sol at two and a half is equal measures of sweetness and strength different to River at that age who didn't show the full force of his will until around three. I love the differences.

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    1. i love the differences too, these individuals, so beautiful to watch. i find it interesting the way we adjust (or finely tune) our parenting to meet the needs of each child. i see this happening with all siblings; brothers and brothers, sisters and sisters, brothers and sisters etc, watching two little individuals grow and seeing how their big personalities fit together.

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